5 Conversation Starters for Date Night

Date night is your opportunity to reconnect with your loved one, share the love you have for one another, and get to know about each other a little more deeply. It's the time to talk to one another on topics that don't relate your kids, the pressures of work, or frustrations about household bills. This is the time to have those fun and meaningful conversations that will bring you closer together and to remind each other of the things that attracted you to one another in the first place. So, to ensure there are no awkward silences or needless distractions when you're with each other on date night, these conversation starters can help you connect during your time together.

What do you love most about our relationship?

Could it be the way you both make each other feel safe? Is it the way you successfully work together as a team? Is it the way you both find new ways to make your love work? Whatever it is, this is a way to remind one another of the reasons why you are still together. Having the opportunity to talk positively about your relationship can only be an opportunity to flatter your other half, make a romantic gesture, and show them that you care deeply for them. So talk about the way they look, the cool things they do or say, and the ways that they make you feel better about yourself and your life as a couple.

What was the most romantic thing we ever did?

It's important to look back on the romantic things you did together in the past, as some of those loving feelings you had at the time might return. So, think about those romantic times, be it feeding each other strawberries and chocolates on a moonlight picnic, serenading each other on your respective guitars, or some other similar moment where the flames of romance were fuelled into being. If you have a busy family and/or working life, your time together may sometimes be limited. So, this can also be an opportunity to think about the things you could be doing together in the future on a more regular basis, whether that's cuddling up to bed together more often, having more time away on vacations, or engaging in a shared hobby. By talking about it, you will then have the incentive to make your dreams for togetherness happen.

Which date night have you enjoyed the most?

Your date nights should be fun, romantic, and memorable. They should evoke happy memories of the times you have spent together. So, when you're on your date night, ask your partner to reflect a little. What did they most enjoy doing? Why did they enjoy it so much? And would they like to do similar again? This will help you both when you're planning future date nights; and while you shouldn't replicate past occasions in their entirety, you might still try to do something similar to maximize the time you have together. Date night is a great opportunity to have fun with your partner, and to smile and laugh together. Especially when life has been stressful, the opportunity to have a giggle might relieve some of the pressures you have both been facing. So, talk about the calamitous things you did during those early days of dating, remind your partner of the embarrassing things you said when you were in their company, or recall to any other funny moment that is bound to make you both laugh when you reflect on memories past.

What can we do to improve our relationship?

No relationship is perfect, so there will be areas where changes can be made. While you don't want to dwell on the negative side of your relationship on a romantic date night, you might still raise the question as a way of giving you both cause to think and act differently in the months ahead. Your relationship can then grow stronger, and you should both feel happier and more deeply in love because of the changes you have both decided to make. There are all kinds of ways to make improvements as you reflect on your role in the relationship, and you might ask your partner to contribute ideas on what you might do that could improve the life you share. This way, you are showing them that you care about their feelings and that you want to do more to make them feel happier in the relationship.

If you won the lottery, how would you spend the money?

In one sense, this is a fanciful and random question. It's a make-believe situation (maybe), where you are asking your partner to come up with an answer, no matter how crazy and unrealistic. On the other hand, it's the opportunity to find out more about your partner. You can learn more about their dreams and wishes. And it can lead on to a conversation about spending proactices or the saving goals you should work on together, as while some of your partner's lottery-fuelled dreams could be unrealistic, there could be some answers that are within the bounds of possibility. Oh, and it will also give you an idea on future birthday and Christmas presents, and an incentive for you to save up for them.

So if you are short of things to say to your loved onethe next time you're on date night, use some or all of our ideas to keep the conversation flowing.